Are Looks Decieving?

Yes, looks can be decieving. Someone can look innocent, but that doesn't necessarily mean that person is, and vice versa. Someone can look mean or short tempered, but that does not mean they are. For example Damien looks like a complete nerd, but he's a slacker. As am I, I won't lie about it. You would probably expect that from me though. Sadly, I fit in that category, although I am trying to be better about not being lazy. Another good example is Brandon, he may look like an average joe, but the dude is smart and he doesn't slack.

People are too concerned with their apperance, because the majority of people are judgemental now days. If you don't like the same things they do, or participate in the same activities they do, chances are they probably will not like you. So, to compensate for this we try to dress like them and be like them, and those who do not attempt to do this are shunned and become a pariah. They are labeled as weird and the "cool kids" pick on them and ignore them. That's why all those shunned kids form their own groups, because they have atleast one thing in common.

To me, a significant other's looks do matter, but to an extent. I believe a girl that knows what she wants to do with her life is great, that is as attractive as looks if not better. You could be able to help her achieve her goals and maybe create new ones. Money does matter as well. Whenever I am out of college I do not want a girlfriend or wife or whatever that can't carry her burden of the relationship. I will try my best to support her to the best of my abilities, but i want her to contribute as well. To other people I do believe looks matter tremendously. Some guys settle for a cute girl that has no common sense, which puzzles me. Sure she's cute, but if she does not have any type of ambition, self-motivation, or goals then you need to fix that. I am sure what I said earlier about either member of the relationship carrying their burden is pretty standard, but I could be wrong.